Comments from other people on your weight loss

[BNLFL]

Most of my friends and neighbors I see frequently, so they really don't notice. I really haven't seen anyone else I know since before I started in January. I've lost 25lbs so far.

 

[2dogs2cats]

Something else to consider, if it's helpful--there ARE some people who are exclaiming over my body and that's the reason they're exclaiming, which is fine for me and I know wouldn't be fine for a lot of people, and that's fine.

But I think the overwhelming majority of people who exclaim are exclaiming over my fantastic good fortune rather than my body itself, because most of us are overweight, everyone's trying not to be overweight, few of us are succeeding, and seeing me bop around and do it without being miserable or putting in ridiculous strain gets people exclaiming because "OH MY GOD, YOU FOUND A WISHING WELL, TELL ME WHERE IT IS AND HOW TO GET TO IT AND WHAT YOU DO WHEN YOU GET THERE."

And that makes me more interested in being patient through the questioning, because their exclamations are about them, and not me. If I DID find a wishing well and I knew that it was solid and secure, of course I'd tell people I liked where I found it and what I threw in it to get my wish.

Well said, and you make a very good point. So many people struggle with their weight and a lot of us are just trying to find common ground or give people the compliments we'd want to receive ourselves. I'm gonna try and channel your outlook moving forward

 

[2dogs2cats]

Most of my friends and neighbors I see frequently, so they really don't notice. I really haven't seen anyone else I know since before I started in January. I've lost 25lbs so far.

25lbs since January is incredible! I think it would be hard not to notice that. I bet you're feeling so great. It's possible people have noticed and just haven't brought it up to you

 

[BNLFL]

25lbs since January is incredible! I think it would be hard not to notice that. I bet you're feeling so great. It's possible people have noticed and just haven't brought it up to you

No, they would say some wise crack and bust my stones. I see them at least once a week.

 

[byefatlicia]

I love sincere compliments. I love to give and receive them. The folks who know me, can tell that i'm generally healthier and not losing because i'm sick.

I would probably choose to say "you look great" over "have you lost weight" but that's just me.

I also have zero problem giving my Chinese mystery powder the credit. I want people who struggle with weight, as i still do, to know there is hope

 

[RubbaDubba1]

It's how people are geared, i can't tell you how to feel more than you tell me. Use it as an opportunity, to help other people with weight loss/diabetes management. I lost 400lbs, work in a place with over 500 people. I was hard to miss, ive been through it all!!!! If its a negative for you, turn it into a positive and help other people. It's not political, it's a better state of health.

 

[Mc_ppka_tp]

As somebody who lost and gained weight like a meth addicted yo-yo over my life I don't really like it when acquaintances or co-workers mention my weight loss. It reminds me that I am/was overweight and I'm afraid they're going to jinx it.

So when one of my multiple bosses (think Office Space) returned from Asia after 6 weeks recently and said "Hey you're looking great you've lost a lot of weight". I'm kind of snarky/sarcastic/sardonic at heart and the comment kind irked me as I don't do well with public compliments. So I responded "Yeah, cancer sucks. Can we move our 1:1 meeting to 1pm today?" and walked away. That almost got me a meeting with HR. Luckily I've worked with this guy for 10years and saved his butt a couple times so we talked it out and it all seems good now.

 

[2dogs2cats]

As somebody who lost and gained weight like a meth addicted yo-yo over my life I don't really like it when acquaintances or co-workers mention my weight loss. It reminds me that I am/was overweight and I'm afraid they're going to jinx it.

So when one of my multiple bosses (think Office Space) returned from Asia after 6 weeks recently and said "Hey you're looking great you've lost a lot of weight". I'm kind of snarky/sarcastic/sardonic at heart and the comment kind irked me as I don't do well with public compliments. So I responded "Yeah, cancer sucks. Can we move our 1:1 meeting to 1pm today?" and walked away. That almost got me a meeting with HR. Luckily I've worked with this guy for 10years and saved his butt a couple times so we talked it out and it all seems good now.

I like your style! I'm glad thing worked out and hopefully your boss learned a lesson that day. Don't jinx people!

 

[2dogs2cats]

I love sincere compliments. I love to give and receive them. The folks who know me, can tell that i'm generally healthier and not losing because i'm sick.

I would probably choose to say "you look great" over "have you lost weight" but that's just me.

I also have zero problem giving my Chinese mystery powder the credit. I want people who struggle with weight, as i still do, to know there is hope

I love to hear "you look great"! I'll tell people all about tretinoin and sunscreen and give them contact info for my hair stylist and where to get Botox lol. I just think the anxiety about my weight is very deeply embedded and will take awhile to get past once I trust that I'm not just gonna gain it all back again.

 

[byefatlicia]

I love to hear "you look great"! I'll tell people all about tretinoin and sunscreen and give them contact info for my hair stylist and where to get Botox lol. I just think the anxiety about my weight is very deeply embedded and will take awhile to get past once I trust that I'm not just gonna gain it all back again.

We don't hafta EVER go back

 

[deluge]

Honestly, I was surprised how few people noticed. I lost 40lbs, from a BMI of 40.0 down to 33.0. Only a handful even commented. Which is fine.

My family knows the story. My close friends know as well. When I explained the process to get these 'tides to one friend, he said "You really are the most interesting man in the world!" That kinda made my day.

 

[randompersonrandom]

Well said, and you make a very good point. So many people struggle with their weight and a lot of us are just trying to find common ground or give people the compliments we'd want to receive ourselves. I'm gonna try and channel your outlook moving forward

If it's what you want; but you don't have to. All our circumstances are so different, and what works for me may not work for you. I don't even care that some people forget the rule about "you don't just randomly touch someone" and put their hand on my arm or my shoulder or my waist. I'm in such a weird place right now that my body feels like something I grew in my garden or made in my workshop instead of something I AM, so it just hits in the same place as if I grew an eggplant and someone picked it up or I made a cutting board and someone put their hand on it.

If you do that to my dearest friend, who is also losing weight, there's a good chance you'll pull back a nub. And neither of us are right or wrong, we're just way different and allowed to be.

 

[Jerrey]

Yes, I generally think it's rude to comment on people's weight. You don't really know what is going on and why they lost it. Maybe they have some sort of illness or eating disorder. What if they gain it back. Then what?

 

[Jerrey]

Your very right while for most of us it feels great to have your accomplishments recognized there are cases it may be undesirable as well. I had a fellow I know approach me at my work with a sense of genuine concern ask me if I was sick. He was a cancer survivor and had noticed my weight loss and jumped to a incorrect conclusion and was worried.

 

[Onlyme]

I met someone that I hadn’t seen in a year and she also asked me if I was sick. In that year I might have lost 25 pounds but I’ve been progressively losing weight for the last three years. I’m a female who’s 5’6 and weigh 130 pounds so I dint think that I look sickly.

 

[jungletech]

I met someone that I hadn’t seen in a year and she also asked me if I was sick. In that year I might have lost 25 pounds but I’ve been progressively losing weight for the last three years. I’m a female who’s 5’6 and weigh 130 pounds so I dint think that I look sickly.

When I was younger I chronically under ate for years and compliments fueled the delusion that it was really important to stay underweight.

 

[conzopiriani]

I've had a weird experience. I'm pretty public about what's going on in my life on social media. I don't include drama, personal struggles, or trauma, but I DO include hobbies, interesting or funny things I've seen, or other stuff I think people reading would be interested in or excited about. I've also been at my job (25,000 people work at the same place as me) for ten years and am in a position where LOTS of people get to know me.) And I let everyone in my real life be friends with me on social media, and an awful lot of them read my social media; more than I ever would have expected, but I guess I do a lot of fun stuff and I always talk about how I got started doing the fun stuff, and am big on the messaging that you don't have to be amazing or talented to do fun stuff, you just pick it up and do it, and maybe you'll get good at it.

Since I've been public about "I'm on magic skinny drugs, and they are working, and I am happy, hooray!", and a sizeable percentage of my 200-plus office and a smaller but vocal percentage of my 25k job knows that it's open knowledge that "randompersonrandom is on glp'1's and is much, much smaller than she used to be!", a number of conversations when I make the rounds in the office or go to meetings with other groups is "LOOK HOW SKINNY YOU ARE" , and me replying "YES, HOORAY FOR GLP1's, GIVE ME ALL OF YOUR DRUGS". so if you haven't read my little essays on "I am on magic skinny shots and here's how it's going," then you're probably overhearing a conversation in an open-office setup about it, so it's considered fair game for everyone to discuss, and of course there are MANY questions, and of course I answer them.

I fully acknowledge that I did this to myself when I chose to be very open about my business, and I'm not really sorry. I'm startled by the number of people I care about who, after seeing my success and talking to me and asking me questions, went and got their own magic skinny shots and are now much happier. But I also will be kind of relieved and content when I've been where I'm going long enough that my weight loss is old news and people are just kind of used to this being what I look like.

But but but- the difference when you hang out with/meet folks who have never known you as Mcfatty is so relaxing so nothing; I love that.

 

[Good-Heart6425]

I’ve lost 20% of my body weight. I’m totally thrilled to get feedback : “Wow, you look like a teenager!” “You’re a tiny biscuit!” Lots of appreciative glances and smiles! Zumba friends reflect my enthusiasm! Thank you Tirz!

 

[randompersonrandom]

But but but- the difference when you hang out with/meet folks who have never known you as Mcfatty is so relaxing so nothing; I love that.

That happened at work! Our team has a new member, and I'm sort of our unofficial Team Historian because I've been there since it was formed, so I whisper context to her when things come up so she understands why people are reacting a certain way and doesn't get left out of the inside jokes. But I completely forgot to whisper "Also, I used to be 186 pounds" and she was very confused, because the only time she's actually witnessed discussion of it is random people who are dear to me yelling "OH MY GOD YOU ARE SO HOT!" and me yelling back "LOOK AT ME I'M SO HOT" and both of us making noise in celebration and then on to whatever they wanted to talk to me about.

The other day, she said "Did you used to look very different than how you look now?" in desperation, and I realized she didn't know and caught her up. She said "Ok first off, many congratulations, I'm so happy for you. Second, thank god, I'm on Tirzepatide and nobody knows and I have questions and no one to ask...."

 

[CheesyPotato]

Does anyone else really not like getting comments from other people on your weight loss? Even the "you look great...you've lost weight" comments make me want to shut down and end the conversation. I'm not sure why I feel this way or if anyone else feels this way too.

I guess I want people to think I look healthier/thinner but not to actually say it. Maybe it's from years of losing followed by the inevitable gaining back.

I've never taken compliments well, makes me uncomfortable, especially when it comes to weight loss. I used feel like they are looking me over and now have their approval. Now that I'm older, I adopted the "I don't give a rat's hairy behind" mentality lol It's easier to accept a compliment, and think nothing more about it other than they are being genuine.