PSA: You deserve clothing that fits you now

[randompersonrandom]

I seem to have a lot of friends and friendly acquaintances who are walking around in saggy, ballooney, billowy clothes, bras that barely hold their boobs without falling off them, underwear that won't stay up, pants they swim in, etc. They've lost several sizes, and they're vocally bummed about looking ridiculous in their tent clothes but "I don't wanna spend money on new clothes when I'm not at my goal yet." Some of these friends are very financially well-off, and it's like they're punishing themselves for having ever gotten fat in the first place by withholding well-fitting clothing til they're done, and it's fucked.

If you're walking around in clothes that don't fit you because transitional clothing isn't in your budget, then this post is NOT directed at you. Times are hard and the economy is shit and I hope you get where you're going soon and get all the joy in the world when it's time to get your new wardrobe. And if you genuinely don't care about how you dress, and it's just not something that factors into your happiness, then you keep right on doing you and I wish you the best, I'm not at all saying it should matter IF it does not.

But if transitional clothing IS in your means and wearing it WOULD make you happy, and the only thing that's stopping is you a voice in your head telling you that it's stupid to buy clothing that fits you now but won't in a month or so, you don't have to feel like you don't deserve to wear clothes that fit well until you're at your goal. The joy you'd get from looking good in a nice outfit that fits well today is worthy. The comfort of bras and underwear that aren't saggy is not something you need to "earn" by finishing up your loss.

I bought transitional clothing the entire way down (mostly secondhand; threadup, Poshmark, thrift stores and Goodwill's, etc). Started at size fourteen jeans and dresses, currently wearing fours. Bought 12's, 10's, 8's, 6's, and did not give a damn that I'd have to donate them back before long. It's meant I've gotten to walk around looking and feeling more and more fabulous all the time since last June, which is a hell of a lot better of a deal than walking around with all my progress hidden in tents, feeling bummed and dreaming of the day I could "unveil" it. That would have been a waste of time that I could have spent feeling happy.

 

[FarmgirlRebel]

Yeah, I'm kind of cheap when it comes to clothing. So, yep, consignment shops, thred ups, Goodwill..found some really good items. The only thing I have purchased new is a dress for an upcoming wedding and bras/underwear...I only have about 15 lbs or so to go, so I can probably get away with buying a few items now of permanent clothing, esp things like jackets, t-shirts and blouses. I'm going to have to wait on the pants as it seems my hind end is really disappearing ...starting to look like a 2x4 with boobs.

 

[CandyCap]

I thrift my clothes for now (except for bras and undies, of course). Once I am at goal I plan on actually shopping for NEW clothes. I hate baggy clothes...I feel so sloppy. I am not rich, but can afford $6 for jeans.

 

[Donstofikus]

I seem to have a lot of friends and friendly acquaintances who are walking around in saggy, ballooney, billowy clothes, bras that barely hold their boobs without falling off them, underwear that won't stay up, pants they swim in, etc. They've lost several sizes, and they're vocally bummed about looking ridiculous in their tent clothes but "I don't wanna spend money on new clothes when I'm not at my goal yet." Some of these friends are very financially well-off, and it's like they're punishing themselves for having ever gotten fat in the first place by withholding well-fitting clothing til they're done, and it's fucked.

If you're walking around in clothes that don't fit you because transitional clothing isn't in your budget, then this post is NOT directed at you. Times are hard and the economy is shit and I hope you get where you're going soon and get all the joy in the world when it's time to get your new wardrobe. And if you genuinely don't care about how you dress, and it's just not something that factors into your happiness, then you keep right on doing you and I wish you the best, I'm not at all saying it should matter IF it does not.

But if transitional clothing IS in your means and wearing it WOULD make you happy, and the only thing that's stopping is you a voice in your head telling you that it's stupid to buy clothing that fits you now but won't in a month or so, you don't have to feel like you don't deserve to wear clothes that fit well until you're at your goal. The joy you'd get from looking good in a nice outfit that fits well today is worthy. The comfort of bras and underwear that aren't saggy is not something you need to "earn" by finishing up your loss.

I bought transitional clothing the entire way down (mostly secondhand; threadup, Poshmark, thrift stores and Goodwill's, etc). Started at size fourteen jeans and dresses, currently wearing fours. Bought 12's, 10's, 8's, 6's, and did not give a damn that I'd have to donate them back before long. It's meant I've gotten to walk around looking and feeling more and more fabulous all the time since last June, which is a hell of a lot better of a deal than walking around with all my progress hidden in tents, feeling bummed and dreaming of the day I could "unveil" it. That would have been a waste of time that I could have spent feeling happy.

I will say that I went and bought a new shirt not even thinking about how much weight I had lost so I bought an XXL shirt. When I put it on I could immediately tell it looked huge on me. It is such a great feeling to lose clothes sizes.

 

[tncc_rn]

I seem to have a lot of friends and friendly acquaintances who are walking around in saggy, ballooney, billowy clothes, bras that barely hold their boobs without falling off them, underwear that won't stay up, pants they swim in, etc. They've lost several sizes, and they're vocally bummed about looking ridiculous in their tent clothes but "I don't wanna spend money on new clothes when I'm not at my goal yet." Some of these friends are very financially well-off, and it's like they're punishing themselves for having ever gotten fat in the first place by withholding well-fitting clothing til they're done, and it's fucked.

If you're walking around in clothes that don't fit you because transitional clothing isn't in your budget, then this post is NOT directed at you. Times are hard and the economy is shit and I hope you get where you're going soon and get all the joy in the world when it's time to get your new wardrobe. And if you genuinely don't care about how you dress, and it's just not something that factors into your happiness, then you keep right on doing you and I wish you the best, I'm not at all saying it should matter IF it does not.

But if transitional clothing IS in your means and wearing it WOULD make you happy, and the only thing that's stopping is you a voice in your head telling you that it's stupid to buy clothing that fits you now but won't in a month or so, you don't have to feel like you don't deserve to wear clothes that fit well until you're at your goal. The joy you'd get from looking good in a nice outfit that fits well today is worthy. The comfort of bras and underwear that aren't saggy is not something you need to "earn" by finishing up your loss.

I bought transitional clothing the entire way down (mostly secondhand; threadup, Poshmark, thrift stores and Goodwill's, etc). Started at size fourteen jeans and dresses, currently wearing fours. Bought 12's, 10's, 8's, 6's, and did not give a damn that I'd have to donate them back before long. It's meant I've gotten to walk around looking and feeling more and more fabulous all the time since last June, which is a hell of a lot better of a deal than walking around with all my progress hidden in tents, feeling bummed and dreaming of the day I could "unveil" it. That would have been a waste of time that I could have spent feeling happy.

I have been KILLING IT with second hand suits and dress pants from the Bay of E and Poshmark. 5-600 suits already tailored for my new size for $30 to $70. $100 dress pants for $10-20. Only thing I buy new are shirts off Macy's Backstage rack. Nothing more than $20 for shirts.

 

[TeresaHip]

I will say that I went and bought a new shirt not even thinking about how much weight I had lost so I bought an XXL shirt. When I put it on I could immediately tell it looked huge on me. It is such a great feeling to lose clothes sizes.

This is me! My brain hasn't caught up with my weight. I still see myself as extremely obese.

 

[CheesyPotato]

For me, my weight‑loss journeys(yes plural) have been a roller coaster, and my closet is kinda like the souvenir shop. I’ve kept everything from size 11 to 26W because the “what if” monster lives rent‑free in my head. We're talking a couple(ok maybe a few) decades, so some will be wildly outdated in style(never been a fashionista) sweatshirt and jeans does me fine. Before I decided to purchase anything, I went closet shopping , found brand new jeans with tags still on ( seven pairs! ), a few dress slacks, and some cute blouses in sizes that I'm currently in. I remember ordering some of them, trying them on, and immediately tossing them into the “I’ll fit into these as soon as I lose weight” bucket s .

Well, that day finally showed up, some of those clothes actually fit me now, some even loose. Eventually, I'll hit the thrift stores(I'm cheap yes) donate some of my stock(if they'll take it) and purchase newer, you'd be surprised at the stuff ppl get rid of.

When I do, not If I do, reach goal, I will go shopping for a few NEW "night out on the town" outfits like I used to do back in the day, carelessly, happily even lol

 

[FreshAndEasy]

Looking forward and not to this problem

 

[Smiter]

I dont have the clothes makes me happy problem. Clearly, it's the SRY gene working. But I also haven't bought any clothes in years. It's sad. Although I'm hopeful that after this round of weight loss, I'll buy the kind of clothes I have never worn before. Now I'm just glad I didnt give away my oversized old clothes. I need it to stop freezing.

 

[HereKittyKitty]

This is me! My brain hasn't caught up with my weight. I still see myself as extremely obese.

It takes time for it all to catch up and line up in our heads.

 

[TeresaHip]

It takes time for it all to catch up and line up in our heads.

I've been at this for almost 5 years. My brain still hasn't caught up.

 

[professorpeppy]

very true!! i need to do more shopping....

however, i am at some type of disfunctional stage in my weight loss right now. i buy online and still buy in my old size, i was up to 3-4XL in some stores before. my package arrived yesterday, and i thought being the smart person I am, id say im around an L now. but, this L was hanging off me like crazy!

 

[JuneBug1956]

I used to only wear loose deconstructed clothing. Now I like form fitted. I only thrift and buy fitted brands. It is nice to not be invisible. I am enjoying it and realize I have a great eye for fashion now. Am lucky to live in a place with great consignment.

 

[Airborne Daddy]

I seem to have a lot of friends and friendly acquaintances who are walking around in saggy, ballooney, billowy clothes, bras that barely hold their boobs without falling off them, underwear that won't stay up, pants they swim in, etc. They've lost several sizes, and they're vocally bummed about looking ridiculous in their tent clothes but "I don't wanna spend money on new clothes when I'm not at my goal yet." Some of these friends are very financially well-off, and it's like they're punishing themselves for having ever gotten fat in the first place by withholding well-fitting clothing til they're done, and it's fucked.

If you're walking around in clothes that don't fit you because transitional clothing isn't in your budget, then this post is NOT directed at you. Times are hard and the economy is shit and I hope you get where you're going soon and get all the joy in the world when it's time to get your new wardrobe. And if you genuinely don't care about how you dress, and it's just not something that factors into your happiness, then you keep right on doing you and I wish you the best, I'm not at all saying it should matter IF it does not.

But if transitional clothing IS in your means and wearing it WOULD make you happy, and the only thing that's stopping is you a voice in your head telling you that it's stupid to buy clothing that fits you now but won't in a month or so, you don't have to feel like you don't deserve to wear clothes that fit well until you're at your goal. The joy you'd get from looking good in a nice outfit that fits well today is worthy. The comfort of bras and underwear that aren't saggy is not something you need to "earn" by finishing up your loss.

I bought transitional clothing the entire way down (mostly secondhand; threadup, Poshmark, thrift stores and Goodwill's, etc). Started at size fourteen jeans and dresses, currently wearing fours. Bought 12's, 10's, 8's, 6's, and did not give a damn that I'd have to donate them back before long. It's meant I've gotten to walk around looking and feeling more and more fabulous all the time since last June, which is a hell of a lot better of a deal than walking around with all my progress hidden in tents, feeling bummed and dreaming of the day I could "unveil" it. That would have been a waste of time that I could have spent feeling happy.

Jeez random, size 4.... maybe they should have cast you in The Devil Wears Prada 2... as for me...its cargo shorts, led zeppelin tees and skechers.

 

[BNLFL]

Jeez random, size 4.... maybe they should have cast you in The Devil Wears Prada 2... as for me...its cargo shorts, led zeppelin tees and skechers.

No flip flops?

 

[randompersonrandom]

This is me! My brain hasn't caught up with my weight. I still see myself as extremely obese.

Seconded. I used to order online, but now I go to a place where I can try stuff on, because I'll pick up a pair of impossibly tiny pants in "my" size, look down at myself, look at the tiny pants, and think "lulz, never gonna happen." Then I put them on and they fit fine; and oh, turns out I cannot at all see myself.

Jeez random, size 4.... maybe they should have cast you in The Devil Wears Prada 2...

Only if I get to play Miranda!

 

[FarmgirlRebel]

I used to only wear loose deconstructed clothing. Now I like form fitted. I only thrift and buy fitted brands. It is nice to not be invisible. I am enjoying it and realize I have a great eye for fashion now. Am lucky to live in a place with great consignment.

I have no idea what to wear anymore. I need a professional or my sister (she lives far away) to help me out. Wandered around a department store yesterday and was just overwhelmed. On a side note, I typically just shop at a Farm store and get boot cut jeans, cowboy boots and t-shirts are my typical summer fare around the farm and riding. So dressing better is a bit of a stretch for my brain

 

[Dos-Dox]

I seem to have a lot of friends and friendly acquaintances who are walking around in saggy, ballooney, billowy clothes, bras that barely hold their boobs without falling off them, underwear that won't stay up, pants they swim in, etc. They've lost several sizes, and they're vocally bummed about looking ridiculous in their tent clothes but "I don't wanna spend money on new clothes when I'm not at my goal yet." Some of these friends are very financially well-off, and it's like they're punishing themselves for having ever gotten fat in the first place by withholding well-fitting clothing til they're done, and it's fucked.

If you're walking around in clothes that don't fit you because transitional clothing isn't in your budget, then this post is NOT directed at you. Times are hard and the economy is shit and I hope you get where you're going soon and get all the joy in the world when it's time to get your new wardrobe. And if you genuinely don't care about how you dress, and it's just not something that factors into your happiness, then you keep right on doing you and I wish you the best, I'm not at all saying it should matter IF it does not.

But if transitional clothing IS in your means and wearing it WOULD make you happy, and the only thing that's stopping is you a voice in your head telling you that it's stupid to buy clothing that fits you now but won't in a month or so, you don't have to feel like you don't deserve to wear clothes that fit well until you're at your goal. The joy you'd get from looking good in a nice outfit that fits well today is worthy. The comfort of bras and underwear that aren't saggy is not something you need to "earn" by finishing up your loss.

I bought transitional clothing the entire way down (mostly secondhand; threadup, Poshmark, thrift stores and Goodwill's, etc). Started at size fourteen jeans and dresses, currently wearing fours. Bought 12's, 10's, 8's, 6's, and did not give a damn that I'd have to donate them back before long. It's meant I've gotten to walk around looking and feeling more and more fabulous all the time since last June, which is a hell of a lot better of a deal than walking around with all my progress hidden in tents, feeling bummed and dreaming of the day I could "unveil" it. That would have been a waste of time that I could have spent feeling happy.

This is a wonderful post. I had stopped buying clothing because “I’m not buying any more fat clothes!” And lately, I’ve gotten a weird emotional boost from being able to put on and take off jeans without unbuttoning/unzipping them. But even my belts had gotten too big and looked weird with the long tail sticking out because it was too long to lie flat but too short to fall solidly into that side belt loop.

I finally got some new belts AND dug out some of my “just in case I ever lose some weight” jeans and it IS a nice feeling to wear clothes that fit. I had gotten rid of most of my smaller clothes after years of storing them “knowing dang well” I’d never fit in them again. I’m not a clothes hound, so I don’t look forward to buying more, but I do look forward to getting rid of some of the bigger ones. But I’ve done that several times before with the “I’m never going to be THIS size again” confidence and then, there I’d be, having to buy more “fat clothes.” But I never had the tools that I now have at my disposal, so hopefully I don’t let the little bastard sitting on my shoulder that whispers “what if you gain weight again” keep me from doing a closet cleanout again.

 

[domin8brix]

You don't have to buy a ton of transitional stuff either, just get like one or two bras, a few pair of underwear, a couple pairs of pants that you can wear every other day, and a few tops. Wear them til they're huge, donate and repeat.

I used to buy two pair of jeans when Old Navy did their half off or more on them, usually in a size probably too snug and then wear them til they were too big to hold up, donate them and repeat.

 

[Airborne Daddy]

No flip flops?

3 things i dont do: umbrellas, straws or sandalls...