Don't tell me what to do! Dietary input resistance

[byefatlicia]

Anyone else struggle with rules fatigue? I decided to up my game and cut more carbs and sugar than I have been. And when I told a family member the plan, they were like "and this, and this, and the other thing..."

My response to this is always to push back. When I have too many rules, I don't stick to it. And I know this.

 

[Calm Logic]

There's a Reddit on GLPs that bans diet talk. I can understand why.

 

[redbullwings]

Too many rules = decision fatigue = rebellion.

It literally starts feeling like punishment and my brain goes, “nope, I’m not living in food jail.”

That’s how I feel when people pile on advice or when social media throws 10 different diets at you. Keto, no sugar, carnivore, Mediterranean, vegan… it’s like there’s always another rule to add.

 

[DjJoshua]

Anyone else struggle with rules fatigue? I decided to up my game and cut more carbs and sugar than I have been. And when I told a family member the plan, they were like "and this, and this, and the other thing..."

My response to this is always to push back. When I have too many rules, I don't stick to it. And I know this.

I've personally tried a ton of advice and research on weight loss, diets, exercise, and all that over the years. Sure, people are different, and there are some key biological principles most humans respond to. But overall, through trial and error in my own life, I've experimented with food and figured out what actually works for my body and my goals. The one shift that made the biggest difference for me was starting to see junk food and bad stuff as the enemy . I realized the companies making that crap don't give a damn about my health they're just after profits. Once I framed it that way, it got way easier to say no without feeling deprived by a million rules. I get the push back when someone piles on 'and this, and this, and the other thing' too many rules just leads to burnout and quitting for me too. Keeping it simple and personal has been key to sticking with it long-term.

 

[chunkyTN]

The ONLY way I can do this long term is to just try to be smart and eat what sounds good. Too many years, too many diets. If I have to follow a bunch of rules I know I'm gonna fail. So far it's working and when somebody tries to tell me what I should be eating or doing I just tell them I'm glad that works for them and that I have to go my own way.

 

[randompersonrandom]

Anyone telling me what they think I need to do, who I have not asked and who is not paying me, will see that conversation end almost immediately. That can be a little tricky, because in my real life, I frequently share whatever I'm working on, learning, or building, especially on social media. If it's a painful topic, or one that I think will excite a lot people who love to try to "teach" others, I include a gentle disclaimer that while I love people's helpful hearts, I am not open to suggestions or recommendations at this time. Anyone who ploughs through that is met with deafening silence. It's noticeable because I respond to or react to every comment except anything shitty, or anything that contains advice.

 

[Not_Your_Dad]

I avoid this by generally being a cantankerous asshole. There is almost no one I won't tell to get fucked if they're spouting off a bunch of bullshit. Limits my social circle but brings me a great deal of peace.

 

[94brian49]

Me! But I'm also more like a rebellious, whenever someone told me to do something i tend to do the opposite

Not just weight loss, but in general, i learned that i'm better off doing what i can rather than what i should. I'm generally happier this way.

 

[Beast-of-Burnley]

I'm a big believer in the good old KISS keep it simple stupid!

I have 2 targets, count my calories and aim to be below my maintenance target and I aim for a minimum of 100g protein each day (not an excessive target)

Outside of those 2 rules I allow myself pretty anything I want so long as it fits within my calories, want some whiskey bang it in the calorie tracker, want some chocolate bang it in the calorie tracker.

For what it's worth I've always been good at losing weight but I'm very much the definition of a yo-yo I was diagnosed with binge eating disorder and using glp1 medication has seemingly allowed me to overcome that

 

[Calm Logic]

I mostly do the McDougall starch-based diet, but I break some of their rules since I'm not a vegan, and I usually go with the flow at restaurants.

Plant-based is easy for me since I'm mostly a vegetarian (pescatarian). I love sweet potatoes, and the best ones are at Texas Roadhouse.

 

[Gr33dyOctopus]

I have a confession, I had a Rice krispie treat and a cookie yesterday they were both God damn f****** delicious

 

[HereKittyKitty]

If you're telling me what to put into my pie hole and I'm not paying you and you're not an RD, I'm flat out ignoring you. I may not tell you to phuk right off but I won't pay you any mind.

I live simply: shop the perimeter of the grocery, act & eat as if T2 is still active, eat x protein and drink y fluids every day.

 

[byefatlicia]

The thing is... I know my peeps really want to help and give me good advise. But... when you haven't dealt with the same struggles, your advise comes from an outside perspective.

Kind of like when someone who doesn't have anxiety tells me "Why do you even worry?"

"Love casts out all fear." Ughh, tell that to my amygdala...

 

[FlowerFairy]

I have a confession, I had a Rice krispie treat and a cookie yesterday they were both God damn f****** delicious

I saw that those fruit-shaped Chinese ice cream treats were on sale when I was at H-Mart and bought a box. They are pretty much the best ice cream treat I have ever had- I will buy those again even full price! I only ate one (each time I ate one- still have one left) but limited it because I only wanted one, which is a lovely change from my much younger days when I’d eat 2.. if I want a treat, I eat it. Mostly because I rarely want anything. Except grapes.. I don’t remember grapes being so crunchy and tasty in previous years..

 

[FlowerFairy]

The thing is... I know my peeps really want to help and give me good advise. But... when you haven't dealt with the same struggles, your advise comes from an outside perspective.

Kind of like when someone who doesn't have anxiety tells me "Why do you even worry?"

"Love casts out all fear." Ughh, tell that to my amygdala...

I know they want to help too.. but I’ve usually tried their suggestions already. Or they’ve never weighed more than 150 and their advice just doesn’t apply. And I have anxiety too and I always want to punch people who just don’t get it and give stupid advice like, “just don’t worry!” Or “let go and let God!” . I'm thrilled that works for you, but this is a chemical imbalance in my brain.

 

[indolent]

I have enough trouble with my mind/body pushing back against the "rules" I try to impose on myself. The devil & angel on shoulders thing.

External advice? Unheard.

 

[Sasquatch]

It's interesting a "how to diet & excersize" thread is parallel to this thread. I'm not around people in real life, for days and weeks at a time. It's really good. I don't need excersize because my life's routine is physically strenuous, day in and day out. Outside everyday. All weather. If I lost all my fat, it simply wouldn't work. One size does not fit all. Not by a long shot.