Tired of being called "dear" and "honey"

[zpped]

Has anyone been to China? If so, how were you addressed or treated by service people in person?

Probably in Chinese

It's similar to Arab cultures that address everyone as "my friend". It's just a quirk of translation and mismatch in cultural expectations. It's like how the French get pissed off (I could end the sentence here and it would stand fine on its own lol) if you address them without saying hello first.

 

[keangkong]

I like being called dear or honey.

 

[GaryC]

I grew up in the south. If a waitress called me honey it was an automatic 10% extra on the tip. I respond well to people being nice to me even if I know they're not really serious, it's the thought that counts. Honey, dear, friend, it's all good to me, we could all use a little more civility in the world.

 

[FlowerFairy]

I tried to avoid all of those peptide TikTokers

I report her videos so I get the first few seconds- long enough to hear, “hey frie-“

 

[MsGizmo]

When they call me "dear" I always picture a little old lady.

 

[indolent]

For those of us old enough to remember postal letters: almost without exception in the USA, we began with "Dear Mrs. McGillicuddy" ... even business letters from both sides, and even when they were of an adversarial nature (e.g., legal or customer service issues). Or involving zero personal familiarity to an anonymous person: "Dear Sir or Madam."

 

[YoYoFat]

Has anyone been to China? If so, how were you addressed or treated by service people in person?

I was referred to as Miss or Madam, depending on my apparent age in relation to the speaker. Thankfully, more Miss than Madam.

 

[jdaniel30]

I deal with China on occasion for work. Generally I terminate conversations with Xie Xie (thank you). The vendors appreciate politeness from customers.

 

[Dapeptide]

Weird thing to complain about , Must be a TikTok refugee.

 

[zpped]

I deal with China on occasion for work. Generally I terminate conversations with Xie Xie (thank you). The vendors appreciate politeness from customers.

Same, I always write it in hanyu as well. 谢谢

 

[Windingroads06]

You would have liked Tracy. Famous for telling customers to eat shit.

Tracy was good at roasting us! Glp fish Karen's! Oh the memories!

 

[angela_a]

Weird thing to complain about , Must be a TikTok refugee.

Nope. Just find terms of endearment from strangers a little odd.

 

[Calm Logic]

Yeah, we all have our pet peeves. Introverts are also more likely to detest conversational bullshit.

 

[peptidepower77]

If the alternative is paying 10x as much for a single vial to avoid terms of endearment, I'll take a few dears and friends To each their own though.