Boy, I sure am cryin a lot!

[RosebudFox]

I didn't really notice it sooner because I'm perimenopausal and on a three week cycle, which means I'm living a bit....intensely these days, emotionally. But one of my coworkers mentioned casually that it seems like I've been crying a lot (they haven't witnessed it firsthand or anything, but since I'm not a regular weeper, it's something that comes up in "yesterday after I got off work" stories.) I kinda dismissed it and figured it's because I'm waiting to bleed. But I'm cleaning and kid-proofing because my not-daughter is visiting tomorrow with my not-granddaughter, and realized I was absently crying while I unload the dishwasher.

So I thought it over, and yep; I HAVE had a fair spike since mid-march. I'm fairly happy life-wise; and I'm not depressed or hurting or in a bad place; the stuff I'm crying over is like, the full gamut. Dear Evan Hansen. Literally any poem about a spider. My boss presented me with a division award yesterday and didn't use ChatGPT to write his remarks because he knew I'd be hurt by that, so he took the time to say HIMSELF what he meant. A bunch of songs from Hamilton. My dead father. A guy I was in love with in high school, who I am NOT in love with now but I sure was then and now boo-hoo-hoo when "Iris" comes on. Any thinking about my mom kind of growing up with me and how hard she worked to be good. My dearest friend, who's been dead for like three years. World War Z, almost ANY chapter. Television shows. Commercials for pediatric hospitals. Considering whether the unbroken line of my ancestors would be proud or ashamed of who I am. etc. etc. etc. etc, going about my business with a kleenex.

I don't require any advice, if it's perimeno, then it's nothing; if it's reta, it'll likely fade off in time, and I don't live a life where a little bit of crying will disrupt anything. But I thought I saw a couple of people talking about mood swings with reta, and I may be having some. Just thought I'd add my data-point to the pool.

How old are you? Perimenopause is insane. I got on birth control to stop the roller coaster. The straw in the camel's back was a four hour crying bout that felt completely out of control. I also had (and sometimes still have) some very "meh" days, where nothing sounds good to me.

I would never discount that it could be the Reta, and I am sure that you know your body best. But peri is a lot. If you have lost some weight, I would think that could cause your hormones to fluctuate more than normal as well.

Sending hugs and take care of yourself!

 

[desinr-gal]

The pilot and the skywatcher. I've been bawling at that one for twenty years. But I got to the part where the sergent finds the turtle and starts whispering to it and just lost my shit.

Thanks y'all for the kind words. I really am fine and not in like constant pain or anything. It's not even anhedonia, I had that for several months with tirz but not so much on tirz. It didn't feel like this; it just felt like "there is nothing in particular that I care about doing." This is more "I am bopping along thinking about work and my bicycle and then I read a poem about a spider and am on the couch going boo hoo hoo and then I go get on my bicycle." It's what makes me think that if it's not perimeno, it's reta; there's a kind of emotional that feels chemical rather than situational.

Sending warm hugs..

I know you dont want advice but having survived peri, then going into depression with Meno.. I can tell you that adding hormones really helps. I couldnt get them for a long time, so I tried other ways; dark chocolate and cacao powder, frothed in warm milk, with cinnamon and nutmeg. I highly recommend soy milk for the isoflavones,.. walks and reading under trees.

Sunlight and Vit D3. herbal teas with saffron. All of these helped me, but HRT solved the issue.

Having said that the daily events happening in the world are horrific and the sadness is pervasive. I want to cry right now. You are not alone, I am here too.

 

[randompersonrandom]

How old are you? Perimenopause is insane. I got on birth control to stop the roller coaster. The straw in the camel's back was a four hour crying bout that felt completely out of control. I also had (and sometimes still have) some very "meh" days, where nothing sounds good to me.

45, and I'm JUST at the start of it; the only signal I really have is that my cycle is short, my libido is high, and my hair seems a little thinner. I'm planning to get on HRT whenever I get around to it just because I want to keep my hair, skin, bones, and lady-parts as they are

Sending warm hugs..

I know you dont want advice but having survived peri, then going into depression with Meno.. I can tell you that adding hormones really helps. I couldnt get them for a long time, so I tried other ways; dark chocolate and cacao powder, frothed in warm milk, with cinnamon and nutmeg. I highly recommend soy milk for the isoflavones,.. walks and reading under trees.

Sunlight and Vit D3. herbal teas with saffron. All of these helped me, but HRT solved the issue.

Having said that the daily events happening in the world are horrific and the sadness is pervasive. I want to cry right now. You are not alone, I am here too.

Yes, to all of that. Although damn, all of those things sound awfully pleasant just to do in GENERAL, like why wasn't I already doing all of that at twenty? Yes please, I would like dark chocolate and cacao powder with cinnamon and nutmeg in warm soy milk with long walks in the sunlight and reading under trees, with cold saffron tea when it gets hot. Yes, I'll take two.

 

[desinr-gal]

45, and I'm JUST at the start of it; the only signal I really have is that my cycle is short, my libido is high, and my hair seems a little thinner. I'm planning to get on HRT whenever I get around to it just because I want to keep my hair, skin, bones, and lady-parts as they are

Yes, to all of that. Although damn, all of those things sound awfully pleasant just to do in GENERAL, like why wasn't I already doing all of that at twenty? Yes please, I would like dark chocolate and cacao powder with cinnamon and nutmeg in warm soy milk with long walks in the sunlight and reading under trees, with cold saffron tea when it gets hot. Yes, I'll take two.

Cold green tea with jasmine in my water bottle is lovely also. Ito-en makes them so they work in cool water..

 

[JokeyJo]

Has anyone added in any peptides to counteract the anhedonia from reta or tirz? Any that might work for it?

 

[Good-Heart6425]

45, and I'm JUST at the start of it; the only signal I really have is that my cycle is short, my libido is high, and my hair seems a little thinner. I'm planning to get on HRT whenever I get around to it just because I want to keep my hair, skin, bones, and lady-parts as they are

Yes, to all of that. Although damn, all of those things sound awfully pleasant just to do in GENERAL, like why wasn't I already doing all of that at twenty? Yes please, I would like dark chocolate and cacao powder with cinnamon and nutmeg in warm soy milk with long walks in the sunlight and reading under trees, with cold saffron tea when it gets hot. Yes, I'll take two.

Yes! HRT saved me from all those useless perimenopause feels: night sweats, frequent bleeds and random sadness. When I was interviewing my new patients, the women on HRT were ageless. I decided I’d follow their example, despite the claims of adverse coronary artery consequences . Nowadays, HRT ‘s part of my longevity protocol for my bones, my skin, my hair, my brain, my IQ!

 

[randompersonrandom]

Yes! HRT saved me from all those useless perimenopause feels: night sweats, frequent bleeds and random sadness. When I was interviewing my new patients, the women on HRT were ageless. I decided I’d follow their example, despite the claims of adverse coronary artery consequences . Nowadays, HRT ‘s part of my longevity protocol for my bones, my skin, my hair, my brain, my IQ!

ok, this is the post that convinced me, I'm calling my doc on Monday and saying ok let's do it.

 

[Good-Heart6425]

My OB/GYN prescribed bio identical HRT; i.e., estradiol and Prometrium and reviews/renews my prescriptions annually.

U.S. Department of Health and Human Services ... Alicia Jackson, PhD: “Estrogen is one of the most effective longevity interventions for women

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[ThatNextGril]

ok, this is the post that convinced me, I'm calling my doc on Monday and saying ok let's do it.

Just a quick comment to say if you do get an Rx for HRT (which I hope you do!) there's been a stupid national (global?) shortage of estradiol due to the FDA removing the black box warning (which was loooonggggg overdue) and so many more women over the last few years realizing it's safe and effective after all.

We're all out here hopping pharmacy to pharmacy to be sure we get the supply every re-order. And as many women have moaned about it: this would never happen with a drug for men.

 

[Ruckus4519]

there's been a stupid national (global?) shortage of estradiol due to the FDA removing the black box warning

Damn that was fairly recent too. Within the past year. Thanks for sharing. Glad to know this is relatively safe.